You can’t define me. Sometimes I wish I fit into a category, but I just don’t. I like to joke that I am a sober-liberal-southern baptist-outdoorsperson, but even that isn’t right all the time. I recently posted an article about dressing conservitaly in pictures. That was shocking to some of my readers. I love having an opinion and I love learning new things. Consequnetly, my opinion often changes. That means that sometimes I have to update my views when I find out something I didn’t know. I don’t think someone else’s views should define me. I am my own person and will make my own desicion. That is a relatively new right for women in America and I will take full use of it.
Yes, I vote. I tend to vote along party lines, but not always. I know why I believe and vote a specific way. I have changed my mind after listening to a debate or speaking with a friend. I don’t think we shouldn’t talk about politics because they are so important to us. Why would we not talk about the most important things? Are we really so uncivilized that we can’t have a discussion? We are so fortunate to get to participate in our politics, especially as a woman. I just think we should learn to respect each other’s view. Educate yourself. Why do you vote a certain way? Who is it affecting? I have many friends on both sides, which by the way, has to end. The sides. The division. I think we need to treat all people, just as they are, God’s creations. He created them, whether you like that or not.
Speaking of God, it is clear from my writing that I am a Christian and will never hide that. However, that is my choice. It always has to be a choice. You can never force someone to do something that they don’t want to do. That is precisely why God created free will. He could have forced us to worship Him, but why? It would be like having someone drink Love Potion #9, it isn’t genuine and real. I want all my connections and friendships to be real. There are some people that we don’t discuss certain things because we know it is a moot point. I have some friends that we have wonderful discussions that we discuss in great length and depth our views. I think you have to look outside yourself. It isn’t all about you. I know, shocker.
I hear some of the most selfish things come from people. I truly feel like that is the problem. I learned in 5th grade, from one of the greatest science teachers, about eco systems. There was a circle of life and everything supported everything else. What is true out in the environment is true for us. We need everyone. The Earth was set up that way. God made it that way. Everyone is important, whether they directly impact you or not, you will eventually feel it in some way. To me, all life is important. When Jesus died on the cross, time became the most valuable thing to humans. Time for everyone to accept Him as their Savior. That is why I feel all life is important. The quality of life, not just the birth.
My life use to be all about me. I didn’t care, at all, about anyone, but me. I would think how a certain situation would benefit me. Now I just think about fishing, just kidding. I try to think about others. OK, let’s lighten it up. Seriously though, we should be able to talk about things we disagree about. If we don’t talk about things how will we make any progress? How will we move forward? I love being an American because we are allowed to discuss things and vote on issues that are important to us. That doesn’t happen everywhere. I think we forget how truly blessed we are to live here. Your America isn’t necessarily my America, though. We can be different. Isn’t that the great thing about the 50 nifty united states? We aren’t all clones. We are unique and we are different people.
I love meeting new people. I love learning new things. I am a city girl from New Orleans who loves to fish. I love fashion and creating my own style just as much as I love catching a giant redfish. I am not just an outdoorsgirl, I am a girl on the town, too. I love to spend my Sunday mornings in church with my church family, but we don’t always agree and that is OK. You can’t put a label on me and stuff me in a box. My voice will be heard. I went from a party girl to sober, but I would like to think that I just refined party. Ok, Travis Fletcher quit laughing. I don’t party, but I still love to dance. I just can’t stay up past 10pm! Sometimes I am quiet, just not often. I love to read, just much more slowly these days because now I am a mom. Who I am, changes. I can’t be defined by someone else’s definition.
I am unique. I am working on my selflessness, as a Christian and in my sobriety. We addicts don’t have a monopoly on selfishness though. That is why I feel my blog fits everyone. I don’t know everything, but I have made A LOT of mistakes. I am trying my best to learn from my mistakes. Which I hope makes me wiser in the long run. There will always be something to learn. So the one definition that will always stick is learner. I am Vanessa and I am learning. That is the truth. While everything else could change, that will remain the same. I love learning from the people surrounding me and the new friends I meet. We all have something to give and we should all have room to grow. That, to me, would be the key to making everything work peacefully. I share my life with you, everything. I don’t ask you to agree with it all. I ask you to look at things from a different perspective. I am transparent in my writing so that you can fully grasp who I really am. This is me. You can laugh when I say I am a sober-liberal-southern baptist-outdoorsperson-fashionista. See, I added that last part. Always growing.