I won’t sell myself; my body that is. It also frustrates me greatly that other women allow or want to sell their bodies. In fact, I am pretty sure they give it away for social media “likes.” To me, that is the opposite of respecting yourself. When I dove into fishing, I was honestly shocked at the amount of nudity from women. Here are these “models” holding a fish someone else caught with their “paid for things” hanging out and all I wanted to see was the fish. Over time, it just got annoying. I am not sure who I am more annoyed with, the women showing or the men who look. Now, if you want to look at porn, I guess do it, but there are other issues with that. I, however, want to look at fish. I know that I am in the minority these days. I am really not sure why. I feel just icky when I get oogled. I know, some of you can’t imagine why anyone would want to look at me, but it happens. I had big boobs once when I was pregnant and never wanted them again. I am not envious of those things. I love my body the way it is, thank you very much. I am thankfully married to a man that thinks and tells me how beautiful I am daily. However, he would love me if I my whole body changed. He loves me for who I am and that is all internal. I started wearing one piece swimsuits when fishing because of modesty.
I do not like the idea of someone looking at my fish brag just to look at my physique. I am also a mom and I want to set a great example for my daughter. My daughter will be gorgeous, I just know it. She is so beautiful, just like my mom. I want her to know that her greatest impact will come from within, not her physical beauty. I attempt to set that standard now by not working with companies or organizations that condone tasteless displays of exploitation. I was told to not voice my opinion at the online magazine, Shallow Addiction or SAM, I wrote for. They said that sex sells and I shouldn’t “bash” a company for advertising with a pretty much naked butt in my face. I simply told the company, Oceanic Gear, I liked their clothes, but not their advertisement. Apparently, women should be seen (naked) and not heard. I find this disgusting. This is common, I suppose, with male dominated industries such as fishing. I realize I will probably not have a huge career in fishing writing. I talk too much and wear too much clothing. I do wear bikinis, but I don’t take pictures in them.
I can keep my mouth shut, but not often. There is a reason human trafficking is such a major problem. Sex does sell, but at what price? I know this sounds extreme, but the amount of people (youth and children included) involded in sexual human trafficking in the U.S. was shocking. There are over 15,000 sex slaves in our country, many in my home state of Florida. Human trafficking is a $3.2 billion industry. You don’t think it could be someone you know, but why not? This money is coming from somewhere. Who are these men purchasing these girls? Often, these girls are promised a better life and only end up at the mercy of a pimp or forced into porn. This is real. I spent hours reading about human trafficking today. Slavery is alive and well.
My body is my gift to my husband. I don’t flaunt it for the world to see. I understand that some women are very proud of the work outs they do, but I feel there is a difference in those pictures. We do live in Florida, so it is H-O-T all day, every day! I do not walk around covered head to toe, but I get it now. I understand and completely respect the women who cover themselves. I saw a cartoon that had two women, one in a tiny bikini and another in a head dress, who thought that their men were controlling. It is more true than I ever understood. I don’t want to be looked at like a piece of meat. I belong to my husband. So, I don’t give them much to drool over. I respect my body. I respect my husband. We are each other’s. I made that vow and I will keep it. He knows and I know, that people will look. When I started the blog, I was asked to show more skin. My husband does not worry about me, he knows I will take care of the situation. I also want to be known as an excellent fisherman, not as a woman who fishes. Would I get more likes if I took pictures in a bikini? Maybe, like I said, I am a mom now. (Joke.) I love who I am and my body, but it is for my husband only. I refuse to let strange men creepily look at my body. Gross.
The fact that so many men do this to other girls is just so awful in my opinion. (This is my blog and my opinion. I really hope that goes without saying.) Yet, why are these girls posing for pictures naked? A tiny strip of fabric in your butt crack does not constitute clothing. Do they need attention? Are they really that desperate? Do you really want attention from a man old enough to be your grandfather? Ew, just ew. Also, there is a thing called sexual addiction. I know, I am just hitting all the fun topics today! I prefer to not go there, but that is a horrible addiction that affects more people realize. Well, that is just addiction. Would you stand in front of your dad, pastor or higher power with that swim suit on? No? Then you probably shouldn’t post it on social media. If you can’t sell your product without a girl’s butt in the picture, you’re product isn’t worth buying. Have some integrity. I am a child of God. I will dress like it. I know this doesn’t make me popular in the fishing community and that makes me a little sad for our world. I refuse to sacrifice my morals to become popular.
I saw this quote and I really love it, “It is a man’s job to respect a woman, but it is a woman’s job to give him something to respect.”