April 30 we will have been married for 3 years! There was a time when we weren’t sure if we would make it. Honestly, for both of us. Now, there is no doubt that we will be apart. Why? Because we fish together! Just kidding. That is a huge part of it, but it is because we put God first now. It is amazing how far we have come. When we met I couldn’t cast by myself. This morning, we were fishing before the storm, and he was telling me to make sure I cast past the lily pad into the pond. We are a team now. Fishing is a huge part of our relationship. It gives us a common ground. We get excited together. We are pursuing the same passion together. When “life” seems too much, we can escape to the water and get a line in the water. We take the focus off of our work and our lives to place it onto the fish. That seems silly until you do it. There is something so bonding about hunting the fish down together. Each time you go out, it is like a mini-mission. Maybe that is just me? I look at it like our adventure together. What will we see, what will we find, what will we catch?
I feel like it helps us build our relationship. We are working together in a common goal. Of course, we do this in real life. So fishing helps us practice. It is not going to break us if we don’t come back with a fish. (Yes, it can be heartbreaking, but we can get over it.) In real life, like parenting, we are prepared because we work together all the time while fishing. Yep, I just compared fishing and parenting. We are very different people, but we really like each other. We approach life and fishing differently. Fishing together has given us to opportunity to learn each other in stressful situations. When you have a big fish on and you are battling her to the boat, you want a partner that knows what they are doing next to you. Same with parenting. You want some one who can assist you at your biggest moment. You also want a partner who wants you to get that fish as much as, if not more than you do. I know my husband wants me to catch fish, probably more than he wants to catch fish. Well, maybe not now. I kinda know what I am doing now. I will never know as much as him and I plan on keeping it that way, but I have come a long way! I get pumped for him, too! Fishing gives you those moments of excitement to cheer for each other. To give each other slimy fives. I love that about fishing. We are on each other’s team. We cheer each other on. It is the same with work and parenting, but those moments are fewer and far between in our daily lives. Fishing gives you a tangible, measurable YAY!
One of my other favorite things about fishing is being outside. I have always loved being outside, now I have a sport to do when I am there. We started kayaking yesterday in the lake in our backyard. As most of you know, we have a 16 month old daughter so we have to find time to fish. Even though we live on a lake right now, we rarely get time to go out. We are taking care of our very active daughter most of the time. (Also, I really prefer salt water fishing.) Travis convinced me to take the walkie-talkie and baby monitor down to the lake and get in with the kayaks. The only problem was our furry baby. She barked when we left. I took her hoping she would sit in the kayak with me. Sure enough, we flipped. She was soaked and so was I. We had a great time anyway just paddling around the house. It is nice to be best friends with your spouse, to be able to laugh together about silly things. I can’t wait to try fishing in the kayak next. I love that we share new experiences together. Travis knows I am not graceful or athletic and will go at my pace. He is the exact opposite, the most naturally athletic person I know. He is patient and kind. That is the only reason I got as far as I have with fishing. He doesn’t expect me to be like his guy friends. I am still his wife. I am there to learn though.
He still goes fishing without me sometimes. I think that is good. We need time apart. I do things without him, as well. I am not a guy and don’t want to be treated like one. Our quality time is spent mostly exploring and adventuring together by fishing. We make that our priority. We sacrifice other things to fish. Some people may think that is crazy, but I am serious when I say that fishing has saved my life and my relationship. We will keep fishing together until the very end of our lives. We have chosen to not purchase a home, but to own boats. We want to be able to move our anchor to where God leads us. That leads me back to the true focus of our relationship, Christ. It is exciting to see how our marriage matures as our relationship with Christ matures. A marriage has to be based on God for it to flourish and survive. We are not perfect at this by any means. We are learning how to pray together. We continuously make mistakes and annoy the other person, but it is different now. Now, we aren’t looking to be right. We aren’t waiting for an apology from the other person. How can I be better. What can I do to fix that? I think when you have common goals and loves, like children, pets, or fishing, you are better practiced at working together.