The Fire Pit of Compromise

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My husband can say funny things. He said, “Take that Pinterest!,” after he finished his log fire pit mini project. We were driving home from picking up Viv after fishing and he spotted a cut down tree on the side of the road by our house. While me and Viv went to play in the back yard he made several trips to go pick up these big logs. It made it even more impressive because his back gate thing on his SUV doesn’t lift automatically anymore. {Usually, I am there to help so it isn’t that bad.} Also, I did not dress her in the pick outfit that reminds me of a Golden Girl. I am not the biggest fan of pink.

Of course, she can slide by herself!

Of course, she can slide by herself!

He placed the longer logs around the “fire pit” he had put previously in a spot I wasn’t quite so happy with. We have a HUGE backyard and I thought it strange to have a burn pile right where everyone can see it. It was an eyesore. Some things though, you just have to learn to let go though. I have learned that in our almost 3 years of marriage. So! I was happy to see the fire pit idea forming and actually happening! Vivi climbed on the logs and sat with me while Travis cut the stump seats from the thicker logs. She also got to ride in the front seat up from the bottom of the hill. She thought that was amazing! I know, I know. All Britney Spears of me, but it was on the grass, in my back yard. She got back in the car and pretended to drive later on. She was very proud of herself. We had a great afternoon and evening playing outside, just enjoying each other. She is an adventurous little girl! Basically, I just follow her.

Driving, already.

Driving, already.

I love when Travis gets these bursts of creativity and thoughtfulness. We are a lot alike in that respect. In some ways we aren’t, but that can be a great thing. We hit an obstacle that we had to overcome and we did. That is what you do in healthy relationships. You don’t always agree. Sometimes you have to stop and stand still to regroup. Sometimes you never totally agree on something or even understand, but you love and respect each other. I hold my relationship to a higher standard than other, I think. I hold myself to a higher standard, it just carries over. I want the best from both of us. I don’t accept mediocre. He laughed when we were talking about that and said it was because I married a Marine. He gets it. He knows. A marriage is work. A relationship is work. It will always be work. As we grow and get older, so does our relationship. It is like school. In the beginning you don’t expect much, because you don’t know much. As time goes on, you are expected to produce more complicated things. From Kindergarten to your Doctorate. That knowledge brings enjoyment though. The more you know the more you can do. Anyway, I am proud of how we handle our issues now. We don’t pretend to be perfect. Of course we aren’t. We are human. However, we are perfect for each other. I know that.

Queen of the backyard.

Queen of the backyard.

We put each other’s wants and needs over our own. We desire the other person’s happiness first. Then it works out because someone is always looking out for you! Sometimes we mess up, but overall it is working pretty well! Putting God at the center of your relationship is the key to sustaining that work ethic. Then you always have support. You are never alone. We are new in doing this. We didn’t start, as a couple, putting God first. We are excited to see how God is already at work in our lives!

She looks tiny!

She looks tiny!

At the end of a perfect day, we got to sit by our homemade fire pit. We talked about our fun fishing trip. Our plans for the future. Our amazing daughter who lights up our life. And just anything else that came to mind. I am so proud of my fire pit. It looks like a vacation home in my backyard! Sometimes, it just takes a little patience and compromise for things to work themselves out. Or for God’s plan to take place.

Our home made fire pit!

Our home-made fire pit!

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