I knew my child was going to have meltdowns because she is like me. She wants to get her way at all times. Vivienne has hit “milestones” early from the beginning. Not bragging. Just the truth. It has not always been the easiest thing. She needs constant attention. EVERY SINGLE SECOND. She is not that baby that sat in her crib or baby apparatus. She wanted to be held or actually stand in your lap. The doctors said she was showing signs of intelligence… or to us annoyance. I am only partly kidding. She is super smart, but I knew trouble was ahead.
Yep. I knew we were in for it! She was always looking. Always thinking. Never, ever put her down. She wanted to move and go. As you can imagine, this is beyond exhausting for parents. However, wonderfully joyful!
So, to the topic at hand. Meltdowns. It started around her first birthday. She started to walk around 8 months. Well, walk well. The mobility is when everything gets extremely dangerous and they become very sneaky! How in the world did she get so fast? She is now 14 months. Her birthday is 12/4/12. (I am horrible with remembering months.) Last night, she brought me her Dad’s cup off the dining room table! Wha??? Did you grow a foot? How did you reach that high? I was on the floor, mind you. I was trying to coax her into playing with her toys that I think she hates. She did not spill the cup of Coke on her way to me, which was impressive. I took it away while saying “Thank You” in my pleasant mommy voice. She did not like that and fell out.
Everyone that knows her now knows what tat means. She did it in Target (my favorite store) on Saturday. She no longer wants to be pushed in the cart. She used to love that. Now she wants to walk. The problem with that is that she has no particular direction and wants to pull everything off the shelf. So, we made it to our destination, toys, for my nephew’s 5th birthday. Yep, I am crazy. Travis and I managed to tag team her while picking out things for my nephew. We then found the outside isle. Fun!
She loves playing with the outdoor balls. She picked out the green spiky one. You can see it in the picture. Heading to check out was VERY hard. That was when she was very upset. She did not want you to touch her ball. She did not want you to touch her. She wanted to talk to everyone. By talk, I mean stand in front of them and stare. I apologized many, many times. My poor, shy husband. Haha. So, I picked her up like a sack of taters and she started to scream. She’s a screamer! Then I would put her down again and she would flail onto the floor. I would try rolling her ball. I tried so many things. Nothing worked. People still told me how cute she was! That was funny and nice at the same time. Travis ended up taking her and running. When I got to the car, she was reading her book to herself as if she hadn’t just thrown the biggest of all tantrums. Ok, that is fine. It is a good thing you are cute little one.
She also gets screaming mad when you take things from her, like playdoh that she is trying to eat. She knows you are trying to do it, too. So she is sneaky! She hides it! She does that when you try to wipe her nose. She hides that little nose! If she sees a tissue in your hand she will go the other way. She will give a little mischievous grin and do a sneaky thing. It does worry me slightly. My little one is very determined. And eating! Well, that is a whole other story! I guess it gets worse when she starts to articulate.
Meltdowns are part of parenting. I know she can’t express her feelings verbally yet, so they are coming out in loud demonstrative spurts. I like that she is expressive. She does wear her emotions all over, her face gives away every little thing. Being a parent is challenging. It is embarrassing. You know everyone is looking at you. What do you do? Just love them. At some point, I hope to get a handle on it. I know every parent has been in a similar situation. You do have to stick to you guns, playdoh is not edible. My 5-year-old nephew did say, “I know you don’t eat it even though it’s salty.” Benjamin and I both like salty things. So playdoh can be kind of confusing! However, we don’t we don’t eat playdoh and we do have to leave Target. IT is hard to comprehend those things at 1-year-old!
I have learned, already. Pick your battles. Learn to redirect. Be prepared. Bribery with healthy food is not necessarily a bad thing. Keep it moving. Make sure to to do naps. Bring toys and books. Be in tune to your child. Most importantly, love them.